We Must Overcome Anger And Unforgiveness To Remain Healthy

Rarely do I dream.  This night I had a dream.  It has inspired me to write: God loves you and me.  God wants what is best for us.  He wants us to trust Him enough that we could have enough faith to move mountains, believe we can do all things through Christ who will give us the strength and He wants us to have the spiritual power to heal ourselves.  However, if we had that kind of faith we could have a problem with pride.  Chances are Satan would do everything to deceive us and our pride could destroy our faith and our health.  Scripture tells us that God detests those who are prideful.  He wants us to have tremendous faith yet, He wants us to be Christ-like by being humble and having heavenly wisdom.

The more I read and study Scripture, God shares with us what will keep us healthy and well.  It is estimated that how long we live, 25% depend on our genes and the other 75% depend upon the decisions we make daily. What we eat and what we think affects our health.  Should we make the right choices our chances of living another 10 to 20 years longer are enhanced greatly.  The problem most every one of us has concerning how long we live is not important until we reach the age of 50.  By then, the life we have lived could subtract 10 to 20 years.

The chance of living to 100, according to statistics, improves with our attitudes, our eating habits and one’s faith in God.  Those who are devoted in their relationship with God normally live longer.  Yet, many Christians do not study the Bible realizing that God is writing personally to every one of us.  He has given us a manual for living and yet we often ignore it.  If we read carefully we can become better off financially and live healthier lives.

I recently read some medical reports suggesting that about every health problem we have is normally a result of a person’s attitude and behavior.  Anger, bitterness and an unforgiving spirit can tremendously affect one’s health.  Often times, anger and bitterness are learned responses.  The problem is that ill health often does not show up until our later stages of life.

In Scripture Jesus told His disciples that if anyone held a grudge against another person or if they became angry or bitter over something that was done to them or if they had an unforgiving heart they had better get over it if they wanted their prayers answered.  Being self-centered human beings that we are and having a carnal nature it is sometimes difficult to overlook something that someone has done to us. Life is not always just a “big bowl of cherries”.   However, if we as Christians want to remain healthy, we had better learn to get rid of the baggage of anger, bitterness and having an unforgiving heart.

How many believers come to God praying for something specific and God did not answer their prayer?  Are you praying that God will help you financially or get a special promotion and you receive neither?  You wonder why God did not bless you or answer your prayer?  Could it be that you have an attitude of anger, bitterness or an unforgiving spirit?

Ephesians 4:26 & 32 – “In your anger do not sin: Do not let the sun go down while you are still angry, and do not give the devil a foothold.   Get rid of all bitterness, rage and anger, brawling and slander, along with every form of malice.  Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”

Matthew 6:14 – 15 – “For if you forgive other people when they sin against you, your heavenly Father will also forgive you.  But if you do not forgive others their sins, your Father will not forgive your sins

Do we please God with our attitudes and our actions?  God’s mercy and compassion has forgiven us of our sins.  It is now required that we forgive others as He has forgiven us.  Scripture says that if we are unwilling to forgive others we shall not become one with Christ.  But you may say: You have no idea what others have done to you.  My answer would be, have you ever been placed on a cross and asked God to forgive them for they do not know what they are doing?  Living a Christian life is so different from how the world lives.  If we are trying to live a Christian life on our own without the Holy Spirit’s guidance chances are we will fail.  It is only when we totally die out to self, allow the Holy Spirit to completely guide us, that we will become more and more Christ-like.  The sooner we begin listening to the Holy Spirit the sooner we will become spiritually mature and the more we will be blessed.  Then we can expect to see more blessings in our lives.  Scripture says: God wants to bless us!  Are we allowing Him to?

We know that anger can cause anxiety and frustration.  But do we realize how much it may affect our health?  When we become angry our blood pressure goes up, our heart beats faster, we become tenser and our adrenalin starts pumping.  An angry person is susceptible to heart attacks and strokes.

Romans 8:5 – 10 – “Those who live according to the sinful nature have their minds set on what that nature desires; but those who live in accordance with the Spirit have their minds set on what the Spirit desires. The mind of sinful man is death, but the mind controlled by the Spirit is life and peace; the sinful mind is hostile to God. It does not submit to God’s law, nor can it do so. Those controlled by the sinful nature cannot please God. You, however, are controlled not by the sinful nature but by the Spirit, if the Spirit of God lives in you. And if anyone does not have the Spirit of Christ, he does not belong to Christ. But if Christ is in you, your body is dead because of sin, yet your spirit is alive because of righteousness.”

Have you ever looked at an older person and thought, it looks like they lived a very tough life?  What about looking at someone whose face looks like they have been a very angry person in their life-time?  Talk to them for a short-time and that confirms it.  You may think how you look when you get older depends on your family’s genes.  But that is not always true.

I have had some of my relatives live past 100 but some died in their sixties.  Sometimes it has been for unexplained medical reasons but usually it has to do with how they lived and what they believed.  Some were taught and believed in God but they also walked away from God.  We can have our minds set on what our nature desires or it can be set on what the Spirit desires.  Our mind and soul must decide which we will choose.

Do you know Christians who have an unforgiving spirit?  Their problems are because of what someone else did to them. What about those who do not trust God and continually worry?  What our mind dwells on, can affect our health to a major degree.  If you realize stress, depression or anger can cause physical problems don’t you think it is time to change?  Knowing what we conjure up inside of us will come to the outside; do we want to live that way?  Then if we have anger, bitterness or an unforgiving spirit aren’t we just asking for physical problems later?  Isn’t now the time to do something about it?

God Knows When You Sin & Still Loves You

What are you hiding that you are afraid someone may find out? What can they do to you? God knows everything you do. In fact, He knows the number of hairs on your head. Does that concern you? It doesn’t matter whether you are a believer or a non-believer, He knows.

Jeremiah 23:24 – “Can anyone hide from me in a secret place? Am I not everywhere in all the heavens and earth?” says the Lord.
Psalms 139:1 – 4 – “O Lord, you have examined my heart and know everything about me. You know when I sit down or stand up. You know my thoughts even when I’m far away. You see me when I travel and when I rest at home. You know everything I do. You know what I am going to say even before I say it, Lord.”

There is no situation where God is not aware of what is happening. As a believer He places His Spirit into us. The Holy Spirit is there to give us council, guidance and protection. I was with a Christian friend and asked: “How much do you rely on prayer and the Holy Spirit?” I was talking to a person who has been a Christian for many years and we were talking about the world problems in general. It didn’t take long before I asked him about how the Holy Spirit was working in his life. It was kind of like: “Well I have the Holy Spirit, but what do you mean?” I replied: “Do you realize the power that is within you, having God’s Spirit to direct and check you?” He answered: “I know the Holy Spirit is in me because the Bible is very clear about that. But what are you getting at?” I told him: “What do you think the Holy Spirit is in you to do? Don’t you believe that God’s Spirit wants to help you just as much as you would want to help your own children? The Bible is very clear that salvation allows us to become adopted into God’s family and a part of God comes to live within us.”

I wanted to make sure he understood God promises that if we pray to Him He will answer our prayers. I asked how do you think our prayers will be answered if the Holy Spirit doesn’t communicate to us or doesn’t make what is needed to happen? Our whole conversation was about realizing the power of prayer and the power of the Holy Spirit that is within us.
Our discussion then turned to whether Christians have problems feeling unworthy. So you don’t live a perfect life. Do you know anyone in the Bible, but Christ, who did? Don’t you realize the reason God has given you His Spirit was because He knew we could not make a drastic change in how we live by ourselves. Yet we keep on trying by our own will and we keep failing. We live and believe as if this life of Christian perfection is entirely up to us. The result is that unworthy feeling. We are negatively influenced by Satan’s emissaries that God is not pleased with us.

We realize our part is surrendering this selfish nature we were born with. We are taught that we can surrender that nature only when we learn to love God with all of our heart, soul, strength and mind and others as ourselves. It doesn’t seem that true surrender can be accomplished until we learn to love God and others. We must surrender this selfish nature in order to love God and others. It is this love of God and others that gives us a completely different perspective as to how we are to live and treat others.

I remember a story that was shared on TV at TBS. It was told by a mother to the TBS audience. I will share how I remember it:
The lady had lost her father and her husband. Now her one and only young son had terminal cancer. The last few days completely consumed her. Once her son passed on and the funeral was over she could not seem to get on with her life.

One morning she woke up and went to the kitchen to make coffee. On the table was a letter. The letter starts out: Dear Mom – You will only be able to read this letter once and it will disappear. I just wanted to tell you that Jesus does not look anything like His pictures. He told me to sit on His lap and He would help me write this letter. Mom, you have no idea how beautiful the surroundings are. When I first got here dad and grandpa showed me all around. We are having a ball. Mom, I just wanted to let you know that I am o.k. Love, your son. She rose to get a Kleenex to wipe away her tears. She came back, sat down and the letter was gone.

If you are a doubting Thomas you may ask: is this something she imagined, is this for real? Could she have made up this story to get on TV? My attention was drawn to thinking just how much Jesus loves us. As I was reading Scripture it was sharing how the leper came to Jesus to be healed. Jesus reached out His hand and touched him. Something no one else would have ever done. The man was healed of his leprosy.

Assuming this lady’s story is true, (many knew her young son had passed away from cancer), this letter allowed this woman to get on with her life. God met her need. To the rest of us it gives just a glimpse of how much God loves us. God knows what everyone of us needs and He meets our needs. However, we believe our personal needs seem to be unlimited. If we lived in the slums of Calcutta, India our needs would probably be different than if we were raised in a very wealthy family in America. Are our individual needs greater than those living in Haiti?
How many times does God meet my need and I do not recognize it? Probably the more we have and the ease in which we live, it is unlikely we would be aware of how much God is in our lives compared to those Christians having very little.

It is stories like these and the many I have heard from foreign missionaries that give me the faith knowing each day God is aware of everything I do and each word I utter. He promises that if I have a need He will meet it because He loves me. We may think we need a million dollars but God knows better. The greatest need we all have is to have the Holy Spirit within us actively guiding and checking us, giving us direction and a purpose for living our lives. Lastly, we need to realize the depth with which God loves us. Because of His love, I do not want to do anything that would displease Him by deliberately sinning. I also know the Holy Spirit will check me.

The Advantages of Unconditional Love

This is a message I feel led to write but really do not know how to begin.  I was not raised in a Christian home and after four years in the Navy and at age 22, I accepted Christ.  My wife’s father was a minister and it is like she has always been a Christian.  We met at a Christian college and upon my wife’s graduation we married.

Having received salvation my commitment to God was to live the best Christian life I could.  That meant it was necessary to study the Bible in order to learn what it meant to live a holy and righteous life.  I believe the following Scripture influenced me more than anything.  Mark 12:30 – 31 – “Love the Lord your God with all your heart and with all your soul and with all your mind and with all your strength.’  The second is this: ‘Love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no commandment greater than these.”

Last evening we watched on TV a couple go through marriage counseling.  They had been married for eight years and had reached the bottom.  Things couldn’t get any worse and they were considering divorce.   As we listened to their story we couldn’t help realizing that their problems were: If you don’t do this then I won’t do that.  They gave love and always expected something in return.  If they didn’t get what they wanted then they would respond negatively.  As they responded in a hurtful way it caused the other to respond in a similar fashion.

In sports we would make up the rules and if you didn’t play by my rules I would take my ball and go home.  Then you won’t have any ball to play with and I would win.  The couple had domineering personalities and had to win in every discussion.  Life can either be lived in agreement or you can disagree.  However, how you treat each other in disagreements matters.  Do you always have to win and how important is winning?

Being involved in sports and having been a high school coach requires a certain degree of competitiveness.  But sports and marriage are completely different.  Winning in one is ultimately important.  Winning every battle in marriage at the expense of your mate is not a positive strategy.  It is not what the Bible teaches.  What may work at sports or at work is much different than what works in a marriage.

If my commitment to God was to live for Him I had to accept loving my wife unconditionally.  This meant regardless what she did or said it wasn’t for me to get even but to love her as Scripture says I was to love her.  Her response to me was the same.  We have raised four children together and have never had a major disagreement.  We didn’t always agree but we never became disagreeable.  Thank God He explained to us how we were to treat each other.

We listened to the couple last night on TV and couldn’t believe married people would treat each other as they did.  We are born self-centered, prideful individuals wanting our own way.  If we don’t get what is expected someone must pay.  Revenge is a characteristic of a sinful person.  Scripture says that if we make the commitment to accept Christ and receive the Holy Spirit we can become a new creation or born again.  That new person, following Christ’s teaching, can learn to love God with all of their might and to love others as themselves.  It doesn’t work in just marriage but in your relationship with others, whether at work or anywhere.

I found that the commandment Christ said was the greatest of all worked in coaching or in the management of people.  Over the years I have found God gave us a manual for living a happy, prosperous and joyful life if we just accept and follow what it says we are to do.  My wife and I can attest to the importance of living as the commandments say and that is to love unconditionally in all phases of life.  Here is what we have learned: The more I love God the more I want to please Him.  The more I love my wife the more I want to please her.  The more I love God the more blessings I have received.  The more I love my wife the more love I have received in return.

The following Scripture is also helpful: Ephesians 5:22 – 27 – “Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord.  For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior.  Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.  Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy, cleansing her by the washing with water through the word, and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless.

Christ returns to judge each one of us—part two.

Revelation 20:13b – “each person was judged according to what he had done.”

Each day I wake up about 30 minutes before I need to get up. This past week I have been thinking about this verse: we will be judged by what we have done. It is only in the past few years that I have been able to understand how God would know everything thing we have ever said or done. This morning a number of things came to mind how this could occur.

As a child I lived on a very small farm with no electricity or running water and a wood burning stove. Today our office has motion detectors and cameras that are connected to our cell-phones. If someone goes into our office at any time, we can see who it is if we are hundreds of miles away. If I make a call to financial businesses they tell me I am being recorded. If I call a client they answer: “Hello, Don” because they can tell who is calling. What I can fantasize for the future I could never have done as a child with my limited background.

Let’s assume that as we were born and when our spirit entered our body it was miraculously connected to a computer in heaven the size of a pin head. It records everything we say and takes a picture of everything we do just as our cell-phones. I have heard people say they were in an accident and believed they were going to die and their life past before them. Would you like to be reminded of every bad thing you have ever done?

In our office we have a monitor that records everything the cameras pick up and indicates the exact time a certain thing happens. If we want to erase anything we can do so. A number of years ago every sale made from our Ward’s cash registers was recorded on a central computer and at the end of each day the tape was taken out and transmitted by wire to Chicago. They had a record of every item sold that day. From that information they re-supplied our inventory and kept tract of our sales. A week later we would take the tape and run it through a de-gauzer that erased everything on it.

Here is the point I want to make! When Christ says we will be forgiven of our sins, don’t you think they can be deleted and remembered no more? When we get to the Day of Judgment isn’t it possible that only the positives will be revealed for those members of God’s family? Let’s assume a person never accepted Christ as their Savior. Would you want to stand before Christ and see and hear every bad thing you have ever done? Then have Christ say: You are not a part of my family. You shall be cast into the Lake of Fire.

Let’s use the above concept. Everyone’s spirit is connected to God’s computer system. When we receive the Holy Spirit He acts to advise us what we are communicating to heaven. He realizes that all of the good we do will be sent to the “Book of Deeds”. He is continually encouraging us to be humble, love others, be kind and control negative emotions. He is looking out for our best interests. He knows the more good we do, the more at peace, the more joy and the more hope for eternity we will have. We must keep in mind that every minute He is there for us. Do we forget Him, do we ignore Him, do we reject His Guidance? When we realize how connected we are to God why do we fear? Why do we question when testing and trials occur in our lives? Aren’t we aware that our Father God is molding us, His children, because He has a plan for us?

When we feel lonely or unworthy accept the fact that we are connected to God who wants what’s best for us. We are not alone! We are not unworthy as none of God’s children are. If we are living according to the teachings of Christ we are achievers. Think on these things and see if your faith and your hope don’t improve.

My Grace Is Sufficient!

It is sad, but countless Christians do not realize that they do not have to work their way to heaven. Don’t let legalism trap you into thinking that you are to have a performance-based relationship with God. I have seen a number of Christians wear themselves out trying to please God through works. Some have become so frustrated and discouraged that they stopped coming to church entirely.

Grace may be defined as God’s unearned favor. It seems like just before a president leaves office he will pardon a number of people. Assume a person was a murderer at age 18 and forty years later the president pardons him. The prisoner may have deserved death yet he was offered a pardon or grace. We all have sinned and our guilt could be punishable, at least by a spiritual death. But Jesus died that we might live eternally provided we accept Him into our hearts. Therefore, we can either accept the pardon, God’s grace to forgive us, or we can turn it down. Grace then is what God does for us that we cannot do for ourselves. So without God’s pardon or grace we would then be left to receive what we deserve as just punishment.

Accepting God’s grace and receiving His forgiveness is just the beginning. Once we have accepted God’s grace or pardon we are told to repent. We are to stop sinning and “strive” to live a life of perfection. No one but Christ has lived a perfect life but we are told to try. There is no excuse for not trying to become more Christ-like in how we live. We are not just to talk the talk but walk the walk.

How often have we met brilliant people who have been absolutely unable to comprehend or understand the meaning of grace? According to one survey, 40% of Christians throughout the U.S. believe they will get to heaven through good works. Why is it so hard to understand that we are saved by grace through faith? Many believe living a good moral life and helping others is all that is required to get to heaven. They do not realize that inwardly they may have a corrupt heart. Or, there are those who understand God’s grace but do not apply it to how they live.

How can we rid ourselves of past sins and guilt if we miss the meaning of God’s grace? Sin blocks man’s relationship with God. In fact, no one was able to enter heaven until Christ died on the cross and were redeemed through the forgiveness of their sins. Those who died previously went to paradise awaiting Christ’s resurrection to enter heaven.

As we go through life, problems will happen. We may wonder why God is allowing this to happen. There is always a reason. Without trials many Christians would never learn to trust or grow spiritually. We know that Paul had more crisis than most of us will ever have happen. He prayed repeatedly for God to heal him but God didn’t. II Corinthians 12:9 “My grace is sufficient for you, for my power is made perfect in weakness.”

What we are being told is that God’s grace helps us get through each day no matter what we may encounter. Regardless what obstacles we face or the problem people we meet or the many times we fail, God is there for us. He is there to heal us, to give us hope, gives us heavenly wisdom, faith and to meet our needs. How many of us feel we are not worthy to receive God’s grace? Stop! We can’t earn it; that is what God’s grace is all about. It is free and unearned. Don’t we wish we could love others as much as God loves us?

Again, it is not about how we feel it is all about what God promises and that we can count on. His forgiveness of our sins makes His grace available in our lives. Did something happen this past week that you are still dealing with? Shouldn’t it have been turned over to God so that you may see God’s grace in action?

Can An Unforgiving Heart Destroy A Christian’s Advantage?

Mark 11:24 & 26 – “Therefore I tell you, whatever you ask for in prayer, believe that you have received it, and it will be yours. And when you stand praying, if you hold anything against anyone, forgive him, so that your Father in heaven may forgive you your sins. But if you do not forgive, neither will your Father who is in heaven forgive your sins.”
Let us assume that a person has been a Christian for many years. They work hard and are accountable and responsible. It seems like they have never received any real advantages at work or at home. They do not see where being a Christian has given them a whole lot of advantages in their lives. They attend church most Sundays and when they have a chance they read their Bibles. They try to live a moral life and they don’t beat their wives or kids. Why haven’t they received those advantages that are supposed to come from being a Christian?
In the Scripture above Jesus told His disciples that if anyone held a grudge against another person or if they became angry or bitter over something that was done to them or if they had an unforgiving heart they had better get over it if they wanted their prayers answered. Being self-centered human beings that we are and having a carnal nature it is sometimes difficult to overlook something that someone has done to us. Life is not always just a “big bowl of cherries”. However, if we as Christians want an advantage at work, school or at home we had better learn to get rid of the baggage of having an unforgiving heart.
How many believers come to God praying for something specific and God did not answer their prayer? Are you praying that God helps you pass a test or get a special promotion and you receive neither? You wonder why God did not bless you or give you that advantage? Could it be that you have an unforgiving heart?
Luke 6:37 – “Do not judge, and you will not be judged. Do not condemn, and you will not be condemned. Forgive, and you will be forgiven.”
We must have a forgiving spirit to receive God’s forgiveness and His blessings. Are we critical of others? How do we treat others? If we as Christians are generous and compassionate to others Scripture says we will receive God’s generosity and His compassion. If we don’t it seems we may be treated as we treat others.
Ephesians 4:32 – “Be kind and compassionate to one another, forgiving each other, just as in Christ God forgave you.”
Do we please God with our attitudes and our actions? God’s mercy and compassion has forgiven us of our sins. It is now required that we forgive others as He has forgiven us. Scripture says that if we are unwilling to forgive others we shall not become one with Christ. But you may say: You have no idea what others have done to you. My answer would be have you ever been placed on a cross and asked God to forgive them for they do not know what they are doing? Living a Christian life is so different from how the world lives. If we are trying to live a Christian life on our own without the Holy Spirit’s guidance chances are we will fail. It is only when we totally die out to self, allow the Holy Spirit to completely guide us, that we will become more and more Christ-like. The sooner we begin listening to the Holy Spirit the sooner we will become spiritually mature and the more we will be blessed. Then we can expect to see more advantages in our lives. Scripture says: God wants to bless us!

Whom do you see when you look in the mirror?

Ephesians 1:3 – 6 – “All praise to God, the Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, who has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ. Even before he made the world, God loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in his eyes. God decided in advance to adopt us into his own family by bringing us to himself through Jesus Christ. This is what he wanted to do, and it gave him great pleasure. So we praise God for the glorious grace he has poured out on us who belong to his dear Son.” NLT

When you look in the mirror, whom do you see? Do you see yourself as you believe you are, or do you see yourself as God sees you? We are made with a body, a mind and a spirit. We may or may not be pleased with how our body looks. We often times do not like what our mind is thinking. And, how do we view our spirit? Our limited perspective can negatively affect how we perceive ourselves. Sometimes we have unpleasant memories. We may feel guilty or unworthy, and many times we just wish we could change our lives and start all over.

Many believers do not realize that they can begin again. When we receive salvation and our sins are forgiven, we are given a new life. The problem occurs when we are told to repent and surrender our lives because we are not always sure what that means. This is where the Holy Spirit comes in.

So, how do we repent and surrender our will? Repent means to be remorseful for our past sins and seek the Lord’s forgiveness. Surrender requires that we give up control of our lives to our spirit and allow the Holy Spirit to change who we are inside. I believe that this frustrates many Christians. If we have been addicted and have lived a negative lifestyle as most have, it is because we have allowed our bodies and our minds to control who we are, and if we continue in this manner, we may never get ourselves under control.

Most are uncomfortable giving the Lord complete control. Repentance at salvation is a singular event while true surrender is an ongoing process. Many have never willingly surrendered to the Holy Spirit, and so they find this to be very challenging. As a result, there is little change in their lives and behavior.

In order to grasp the idea of a surrendered life, we must first realize as Christians that God has blessed us with every spiritual blessing in the heavenly realms because we are united with Christ. Second, we must accept that God has always loved us and chose us in Christ to be holy and without fault in His eyes. (Wouldn’t it be fantastic if we could love ourselves as God loves us or see ourselves as God sees us?) Third, God decided in advance to adopt us into His own family by bringing us to Himself through Jesus Christ. How does it feel to be one of God’s children?

As God’s children, we are told to let the Holy Spirit guide and check us in our daily lives. That means we are to recognize that God’s spirit is with us every minute and goes with us everywhere we go. He is there as our partner waiting to help us make every decision. From time to time He will cause something supernatural to happen as a sign to build our faith. We must continually be watching and expecting that to happen. When the supernatural does occur, we are to acknowledge God as the source and not rationalize the occurrence with the thought, “Wow! Am I lucky!” Always give God the credit because He is the giver of “every good and perfect gift (James 1:17)

Repentance and surrender go hand in hand in the life of the Christian. Remorse for our past sins is good, but surrendering our will is absolutely necessary if we are to live the life that God has planned for us. It is when we fail to turn everything over to God, that we miss out on many of the inherent gifts that a surrendered life brings.

If you are a Christian living without hope and there is no joy or peace in your life, it is probably because you may not understand what God has planned for you. So accept God’s promises and stop allowing your mind and body to tell you who you are.